To Everything There is a Season: Successfully Dealing with Change in Your Life
1. ACCEPT THE FACT THAT THINGS DO CHANGE
Remember that in the natural world, nothing is forever…neither the good, nor the bad. You will find yourself to be much less frustrated in life if you accept and embrace change when it comes, and decide to manage it, instead of trying to desperately cling to the familiar, and the comfort of the way things used to be.
2. ACCURATELY PINPOINT THE SPECIFIC CHANGE THROUGH WHICH YOU ARE GOING
Any change has implications on many levels, in different areas of our lives, so we tend to generalize all change that we experience. It’s important to stay focused on one aspect of the change by identifying what you are most afraid of losing as a result of it, and then understanding why that loss is uncomfortable or potentially painful for you.
3. ASSESS THE LOSS FACTOR
Regardless of how you perceive change…whether you see any particular change that you encounter as being ‘good’ or ‘bad’, there will most likely be a sense of loss that comes with it. It’s necessary to clearly define the change, and to recognize the areas of your life that will and won’t be affected as a result, if you can. Also, you must admit to yourself that loss is never easy, even though it is sometimes inevitable and even necessary.
4. AGRESSIVELY SEEK VALID INFORMATION
There’s always the temptation to doubt the facts, and to struggle to believe anything you hear, see or feel about the change with which you are dealing. Remember that knowledge is power…so write down information, ask straight questions, remain open to views that may be different to your own, listen to what you are being told, and be willing to think outside the box. And pray.
5. ADVANCE INTO YOUR FUTURE BY TAKING APPROPRIATE ACTION
Once you have information, then get some momentum going by taking both physical and mental action. Take one thing at a time…focus on taking the first baby step by setting priorities…but also recognize the danger zone. Typically, there comes a point where people choose to move on with the change, and discover the opportunities it brings…others just give in to the fear of the unknown and remain fearful, anxious and in denial about it. Both reactions are normal, but if you increase your small, regular action steps, you will keep that forward momentum going, which will generally keep you out of danger.
6. APPLY YOUR FAITH BY IDENTIFYING THE BENEFITS
Realize that all change has some benefits, and if you understand what the benefits of the change are, and recognize them for the great gifts they bring you…or bring out in you…then you can develop a proactive philosophy of life that continually says: “IF NOTHING CHANGES, THEN NOTHING CHANGES!”
7. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BELIEVE FOR THE IMPOSSIBLE
If you learn how to successfully transition in life, a time will come when you will say to yourself ,“CHANGE? WHAT CHANGE?” You will stop looking at the ‘change’ as something different, because you will have integrated both its challenges and its victories into your life, and will feel more stable and open to what the future may hold for you. Then you will use everything you have learned through the change for the next exciting and exhilarating (code:terrifying) change in your life! The Scriptures call that “Going from glory to glory”…