To Everything There is a Season: Successfully Dealing with Change in Your Life

1. ACCEPT THE FACT THAT THINGS DO CHANGE

Remember that in the natural world, nothing is forever…neither the good, nor the bad. You will find yourself to be much less frustrated in life if you accept and embrace change when it comes, and decide to manage it, instead of trying to desperately cling to the familiar, and the comfort of the way things used to be.

2. ACCURATELY PINPOINT THE SPECIFIC CHANGE THROUGH WHICH YOU ARE GOING

Any change has implications on many levels, in different areas of our lives, so we tend to generalize all change that we experience. It’s important to stay focused on one aspect of the change by identifying what you are most afraid of losing as a result of it, and then understanding why that loss is uncomfortable or potentially painful for you.

3. ASSESS THE LOSS FACTOR

Regardless of how you perceive change…whether you see any particular change that you encounter as being ‘good’ or ‘bad’, there will most likely be a sense of loss that comes with it. It’s necessary to clearly define the change, and to recognize the areas of your life that will and won’t be affected as a result, if you can. Also, you must admit to yourself that loss is never easy, even though it is sometimes inevitable and even necessary.

4. AGRESSIVELY SEEK VALID INFORMATION

There’s always the temptation to doubt the facts, and to struggle to believe anything you hear, see or feel about the change with which you are dealing. Remember that knowledge is power…so write down information, ask straight questions, remain open to views that may be different to your own, listen to what you are being told, and be willing to think outside the box. And pray.

5. ADVANCE INTO YOUR FUTURE BY TAKING APPROPRIATE ACTION

Once you have information, then get some momentum going by taking both physical and mental action. Take one thing at a time…focus on taking the first baby step by setting priorities…but also recognize the danger zone. Typically, there comes a point where people choose to move on with the change, and discover the opportunities it brings…others just give in to the fear of the unknown and remain fearful, anxious and in denial about it. Both reactions are normal, but if you increase your small, regular action steps, you will keep that forward momentum going, which will generally keep you out of danger.

6. APPLY YOUR FAITH BY IDENTIFYING THE BENEFITS

Realize that all change has some benefits, and if you understand what the benefits of the change are, and recognize them for the great gifts they bring you…or bring out in you…then you can develop a proactive philosophy of life that continually says: “IF NOTHING CHANGES, THEN NOTHING CHANGES!”

7. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BELIEVE FOR THE IMPOSSIBLE

If you learn how to successfully transition in life, a time will come when you will say to yourself ,“CHANGE? WHAT CHANGE?” You will stop looking at the ‘change’ as something different, because you will have integrated both its challenges and its victories into your life, and will feel more stable and open to what the future may hold for you. Then you will use everything you have learned through the change for the next exciting and exhilarating (code:terrifying) change in your life! The Scriptures call that “Going from glory to glory”…

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2 Responses to “To Everything There is a Season: Successfully Dealing with Change in Your Life”

  1. Momma used to say, “I’m gonna jerk you through a knothole!” among other don’t-let-your-mind-go-there terrifying things I will spare y’all from.

    In a conversation this week an acquaintance and I agreed: only people who don’t really know God think He doesn’t do that to us…both of us simultaneously said, “But He does!” and laughed as only His children who’ve been through at least one strengthening, purifying knothole can.

    My paraphrase of #7…”Knothole, what knothole?”

    I think I’ve posted this before, but one of the things I connected with immediately at CITN was the recognition of the value of change and encouragement to get moving by changing something! Great word tonight, Bishop.

  2. #4 December 11, 2010…Happy Anniversary AW4W! Looks like the “fact” is that you’ve changed, along with a few of your friends. I like that this portal is still available…especially since there is a butterfly waiting to fly. It was a great season AW4W, W2or3RG, NM… Thanks for the amazing, funny, insightful help…wonderful memories!

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