PRACTICAL POINTS FOR PURPOSEFUL PARENTING

1. RECOGNIZE THE UNIQUENESS OF EACH CHILD
Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.
(Proverbs 22:6 – AMP)

2. READILY ACCEPT THE FULL RESPONSIBILITY OF DISCIPLINE

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.
(Proverbs 22:15 (TNIV)

3. REFUSE TO BE AN ENABLER FOR BAD BEHAVIOR

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left undisciplined brings his mother to shame.
(Proverbs 29:15 – AMP)


4. REJECT THE FEAR OF NOT BEING LIKED BY YOUR KIDS IF YOU DISCIPLINE THEM

Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your heart.
(Proverbs 29:17 – AMP)

5. REMEMBER THAT PARENTS AND KIDS ALIKE ARE ULTIMATELY RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN LIVES

God’s Message to me: “What do you people mean by going around the country repeating the saying, The parents ate green apples, The children got the stomachache? “As sure as I’m the living God, you’re not going to repeat this saying in Israel any longer. Every soul—man, woman, child—belongs to me, parent and child alike. You die for your own sin, not another’s. “Do you need to ask, ‘So why does the child not share the guilt of the parent?’ “Isn’t it plain? It’s because the child did what is fair and right. Since the child was careful to do what is lawful and right, the child will live truly and well. The soul that sins is the soul that dies. The child does not share the guilt of the parent, nor the parent the guilt of the child. If you live upright and well, you get the credit; if you live a wicked life, you’re guilty as charged.
(Ezekiel 18:1-4; 9-20, The Message)

6. RESPECT AND BE RESPECTABLE

Children obey your parents in the Lord [as His representatives], for this is just and right. Honor (esteem and value as precious) your father and your mother–this is the first commandment with a promise, that all may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth. Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to resentment], but rear them [tenderly] in the training and discipline and the counsel and admonition of the Lord.
(Ephesians 6:1-4 – AMP)

7. RESPOND IN LOVE – RELATE WITH LIBERTY

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this is pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.]
(Colossians 3: 20, 21 – AMP)

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14 Responses to “PRACTICAL POINTS FOR PURPOSEFUL PARENTING”

  1. I enjoyed the message.. I think when you start trying to understand Parenting you start thinking about how you would imagine living a life. I have been observing children with the crying the laughing the screaming.. so many emotions its crazy. They change there mind every 2 seconds.. I’m upset no I’m happy..
    and we really are individuals..Not to downplay special needs but we all have handicaps and things that make us not someone else.. so I liked that.
    good night

  2. 1. RECOGNIZE THE UNIQUENESS OF EACH CHILD

    Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.
    (Proverbs 22:6 – AMP)
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Bishop,
    If you did the whole session tonight on this first item, you could have talked all night and not repeated yourself one time.

    I especially liked the way you broke it down and explained where the emphasis on “he” should go; compared to he should “go”. THAT IS SO TRUE !

    As the biological parent of three sons…….they could not be more different. It is true they are hereditarily and biologically from the same parents, but they each came “wired” their own way and the word INDIVIDUAL is apparent. It’s like a box of neopolitan ice-cream. They all go well together and come packaged together, but each one is a flavor unto itself.

    When my youngest son started Kindergarten, I was “aching” for a baby again. Now add in our definition of “blended family”. different than what you spoke of. After the three biological sons, we decided to adopt. So we added three infant daughters to the family over 6 years. (Brady Bunch of a different kind….and NO ALICE ! darn ) Talk about three individuals “wired” from three sets of “unique parental units”. ( how’s that choice of words? ha) There’s a definite nature concept that plays out in them, as we’ve watched them grow, and have the benefit of knowing their birth parents, it’s AMAZING what they do like them and have mannerisms like them, when they never even knew them or saw them as children. You are right, Bishop, you are what you are, who you are, how you were made, then the nurture plays in. I can atttest to that fact from experience ~

    During this time we also did foster care and over the last 19 years have fostered 66 children, ages newborn through 9 yrs of age. Yes, there are definitely “creative parenting techniques” I’ve had to use with various children, based on their individual understandings, experiences, life attitudes, etc.

    Yes, each child is individual and if you recognize THAT and train him/her up, looking at THEIR INDIVIDUAL personalities and gifts………….parenting is easier and the child will be stronger and feel more confident with themselves. I think then they will make better choices and live a better life. Pleasing to us as parents, pleasing to GOD THE FATHER, as well. They are themselves, not little “us’s”, no matter what we try.

    I especially liked another point, equally as well, but I think I’ll save my toughts on that one for morning……….

    Peace,
    Northern Light

  3. p.s. ADDITION In re-reading my post, Some people may think the girls have the same bio parents, NO, each child has separate birthparents & birthfamilies. Each as different as can be in personalities as can be. Oh what a party that is! ha

    Peace,
    NL

  4. Oh for goddness sake………..my 13 yr old son isn’t mentioned in there, he was also adopted at age 7. Okay……….all kids acoounted for………whew, felt like I left someone in the restroom at a rest-stop. NOT THAT IT EVER HAPPENED>>NO~

    Peace,
    NL

  5. OH GOOD LORD !!!! Momma needa math class today. Let’s get this straight ONCE AND FOR ALL>> It’s not that high math.

    3 sons biolgically born………..add 3 girls…………then later add a 7 yr old boy…….then in the last 4 years the sweetest little Jesus loving child, she says she’s going to be a “Preach” when she grows up. She has been talking the Crucifixion & Resurrection story for weeks to anyone she comes upon. There just might be something to her “Preach” gift.

    AH……..okay, geez………………..8 kids ~ boy oh boy, I surely did math better when I was the church book keeper~ haha

    Done……
    Peace,
    Northern Light

  6. Ah NL glad you got all of that straight!!!!!!
    Parenting children with special needs does have it’s own set of challenges. Parenting children who are adopted and have no history does also. Then throw in that pesky birth order. I have 3 children all 1st borns I just know they are. Each 1 more strong willed than the next! I struggle with my oldest last added to the family. He’s going through so much and finding the fine line of teaching him good behavior and everything else. How to push your children to do the hard things and Nurture them at the same time.

  7. No kidding, huh Lisa>? Notice I didn’t make mention of racial differences. Some things just don’t stick out here in this house, although they do make their “individualities” more distinct. And we laugh at some things they say. Ah………..God had a plan there !

    Peace,
    Northern Light

  8. Racial differences? Oh yeah I guess my children are chinese aren’t they! I never noticed, and you too have an International family.
    That does bring up another subject, How to get past all the questions you get in public that your children don’t need to hear! Like how much did they cost or are they related. Well duh!!!! My fav is what is wrong with your boys for China to not keep them. They only get rid of the girls…… No wonder I don’t get out much!!!! GOD knows and Is good and teaches us the best ways for each of our children no matter their differences. The funny thing is I see my sons physical differences as a strength not what the world sees it as!!!! Oh to change legs for the activity you want to do. I think they are amazing…….
    We should write a parenting book someday when we have time!!!!LOL!!!!

  9. I think this goes here

    “Each second we live is a new and unique moment of the universe, a moment that will never be again. And what do we teach our children? We teach them that two and two make four, and that Paris is the capital of France. When will we also teach them what they are? We should say to each of them: Do you know what you are? You are a marvel. You are unique. In all the years that have passed, there has never been another child like you. Your legs, your arms, your clever fingers, the way you move. You may become a Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven. You have the capacity for anything. Yes, you are a marvel. And when you grow up, can you then harm another who is, like you, a marvel? You must work, we must all work, to make the world worthy of its children.”

    Picasso

  10. Yes, Dominique, that goes here. It’s beautiful.

    Peace,
    NL

  11. 4. REJECT THE FEAR OF NOT BEING LIKED BY YOUR KIDS IF YOU DISCIPLINE THEM

    Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your heart.
    (Proverbs 29:17 – AMP)

    Today I chose this verse……and my post is simple and short. (yeah, you’re all sighing with relief…….ha)

    As a mother of 8 kids ages 4 – 29 yrs………I can tell you one thing with full certainty. Your job is to be the parent, the example. It takes a long time and a good measure of maturity in the individual child/young adult to be your “friend”.

    Discipline/limits/restrictions are nothing any of us like, but is necessary to protect and show them the way. I have been told I’m not liked and even I’m hated. And I always knew better, because if you get that response, you are LOVED> and later…………THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN TOLD REPEATEDLY. “I LOVE YOU, MOM.” Like a song to a parent’s ears.

    So relax….do what you know you should. It’s just the way it goes.

    Peace,
    Northern Light

  12. 5. REMEMBER THAT PARENTS AND KIDS ALIKE ARE ULTIMATELY RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN LIVES

    Today I choose this point…………and I am keeping it simple. I have raised three sons into adulthood, and still have five kids at home. During the boys raising years, I have been to to open houses, field trips, school band concerts, chorus concerts, drama theatre, song & dance competition, sporting events, police station, graduations, college, police stations, jail, court…………….get my point ?

    I did what I could, what I knew, and sometimes along the way, I found myself sitting somewhere not as proud, not as confident, not as empathetic. What I ALWAYS found, was that I loved my son, I was there for my son, I supported my son through whatever the particular situation was, BUT I WAS NOT RESPONSIBLE for my son or his choices. WE raise them…….sometimes they go down the ” Y ” in the road that we wouldn’t have suggested, but they come back around and find that out. They are responsible for their own lives. Yes, I agree, they surely are ~

    Peace,
    Northern Light

  13. wow the time is messed up on this blog post……..the one I just posted should say……April 18…..11:46pm…..

    Just noticed, so I thought I’d inform.
    Night.

    Peace,
    NL

  14. Yeah, I know, NL…for some reason I can’t seem to change the time setting on this one…but it’s all good…thanks for the comments…

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