BEING PROACTIVE IN DEALING WITH REJECTION
1. Realize that rejection is just a person’s opinion.
You must be able to accept another person’s opinion as nothing more than opinion…not as a fact. In the big picture, you are who God says you are…but in the reality that you manifest every day, you are who you say you are! It’s your opinion of yourself that will ultimately win out in the long run. In that sense, no one else’s even matters.
2. Recognize your good qualities.
You should focus on your good qualities and strengths as an individual. Having an honest estimation of yourself depends on embracing the positives, as well as admitting the negatives (or the perceived negatives). Believe in yourself, and others will believe in you. Respect yourself, and others will respect you. Accentuate your good qualities, and others will inadvertantly overlook your flaws.
3. Refuse to be overcome by false feelings of rejection.
You have a choice. You can see rejection as an opportunity to grow and to better yourself…or you can allow it to consume you. Accept that you are capable of change if and when change is needed, but also realize that in many cases, rejection is just the result of another person’s inablity to change. The flaw is with them, not with you. Remember that, in a very real sense, you are what you feel, and feelings, in most if not all cases, eventually become reality.
4. Receive counseling, if necessary.
Analysis, introspection, self-help, 12 Step Programs…do whatever works for you, especially if the rejection that you’ve experienced is extreme. Just remember that, at the end of the day, with God’s help you are your own best counselor.
5. Reap your harvest of love without apprehension.
If you sow seeds of love, instead of obsessing over the one or ones who rejected you, you can expect to reap love from unexpected places. The more love you give, the more love you receive. The more thoughts, words, and vibrations of love you send out into the universe, the more love you attract to yourself.
6. Remember that Jesus is a faithful High Priest, who not only experienced rejection, but also set the example of how to overcome it.
Follow His pattern and proto-type of self-respect, and ability to understand and utilize His own gifts, and you will become more positively effective.
7. Reach out, regardless of your fear of possible rejection in the future.
There is no fear in love, and love never fails! Instead of wasting your time in regret or self-pity, get busy today moving toward better relationships. A good word brings a good word…a smile brings a smile…being proactive in dealing with rejection is the only way to overcome it.